Tawny Tiani, MA
Teen & Adult Therapist
I help adults and teens explore their identity and learn healthy ways of coping with their greatest stressors by providing them a safe place where they feel seen, heard, and accepted for who they are. Therapy with me means being able to be authentically you in a space where you can cry, be angry, and hopefully enjoy a dash of humor and honesty.
Sliding Scale: Available
Insurance: Cigna in-network & can provide superbill for PPO plans
Accepting New Clients: Yes
- Addictions & Sobriety Maintenance
- Anxiety & Stress Management
- BIPOC & Asian American Experience
- Biracial & Mixed-Race Identities
- Highly Sensitive Person & Empath
- Work or School Burnout
Hi there! I’m Tawny. I can’t wait to get to know you.
Wherever you are on your journey, I’m so glad you made it here. Go ahead and pause, take a breath, and leave your worries with me.
Not fitting in or feeling seen by people has been a common theme in your life. You’ve spent a long time trying to find where you will be accepted and welcomed for who you are.
Looking at your life and the future causes you a great deal of anxiety and dread, trying to figure out your place in the world. You feel like an imposter wherever you go and feel unhappy with your life because you’re lacking a sense of belonging or direction.
Sometimes, you even feel angry about the world because you’ve felt rejected or abandoned. Your anger has become a shield for your pain and sadness, but you still feel fragile.
Motivation seems like an unachievable ideal and you feel stuck or lost in your life. You’ve gotten to a point where you invalidate your own feelings or gaslight yourself because you don’t feel good enough for anyone or yourself.
Don’t worry. You’re not alone. I’m here to validate all of your overlapping and overwhelming feelings and help you learn to be more compassionate towards yourself. I want you to become the hero of your own story and not just exist in it. Consider me your companion on this journey of life. We got this.
Therapy for burnout and work/life or school/life balance
For you, free time means availability. You schedule every last bit of your calendar, making sure to provide your time to everyone in your life except yourself.
For working professionals, you can’t remember the last time you took a vacation because the thought of leaving and coming back to more work gives you overwhelming anxiety. Self-care means scheduling a shower somewhere in your day and finding time to make it to the grocery store. You don’t even want to talk about the last time that you saw the sun.
For students, you’re struggling to fit in hours of homework on top of hours of practices and events that you need to attend. Sleep has become the area that you’re comfortable missing to fit more homework or studying into your night. You’d love to spend time with your friends, but you feel guilty even leaving the house. Emailing your teachers for help just seems like you’re making excuses.
As a former corporate marketing professional and previous Master’s student, I spent more time managing my schedule than managing my own well-being. Notifications on my phone made my stomach hurt. Insomnia was my roommate and we spent a lot of time together, but it doesn’t have to be like this.
If you’re struggling with time management, motivation, procrastination, or severe guilt over your time, take a minute and breathe here. While it feels overwhelming at the moment, we will work together to help you take back control over your life.
Your life is more than just a calendar of availability. In fact, after you click to schedule a session with me, I want you to disconnect from your device for the next 30 minutes and do something just for you. Take a walk, take a nap, or just sit outside and enjoy this time for yourself. You deserve it.
Therapy for addictions and sobriety maintenance
The stress of your personal life coupled with work and your other responsibilities has left you wanting to escape. With nowhere to go, you’ve turned to numbing the feelings in an attempt to continue functioning the best you can.
What started out as maybe a glass after work has devolved into a regular habit that you’re slowly losing control over. You’ve convinced yourself that it’s easier to function when you can’t feel.
If you’ve already started your journey to sobriety, you have feelings to face that you’ve been avoiding. The fear of those feelings enveloping you and the problems you haven’t addressed showing up has you wanting to run back to feeling numb.
Sobriety can be a scary and lonely journey. It also can look more like a game of Chutes and Ladders with a few steps forward and a long slide all the way back to unhealthy coping habits.
It’s okay if you’re struggling to maintain your sobriety. I’m so proud of you for making it as far as you have. Whether you’re just starting out with the awareness that you need to make a change or you’re a little bit further down the road of recovery, I will join you on your journey to help cheer you on. You don’t need to brave it alone.
Therapy for multi-racial, biracial, or mixed-race individuals
“I am not half Asian and half Caucasian because where would I draw the line? Is my left arm Filipino and my right arm Italian? No. I am fully Asian and fully Caucasian. I am not half; I am whole.” – Tawny Tiani
Identity is a difficult topic for you because you’ve always struggled with not knowing who you are. People often ask you, “What are you?” or they assume your racial identity.
You might not feel that connection with any of your heritages due to a language barrier or never having visited your parents’ countries of origin. You feel like you exist in multiple cultures, but none at the same time.
Sometimes, you even feel like an imposter trying to claim your own identity.
As a biracial individual myself with an immigrant mother from the Philippines and an Italian-American father, I know what it’s like to feel lost. I know what it’s like to not feel like you’re enough and to feel like an outsider of your own culture. Being able to understand parts of the language, but not being able to fully speak it. Feeling like you look racially ambiguous so people aren’t sure what to make of you.
I want to help guide you on your racial identity journey. It’s okay to feel scared, lost, and confused. It’s okay to feel frustrated, angry, or resentful. If you’ve felt rejected or shameful over your identity, you’re safe with me. Let’s write your story together and help you feel confident in your own skin.
Therapy with me and my approach
I promise you that you are more than enough when you’re with me. I take a very down-to-earth approach and want you to feel comfortable and safe during our time together. My time is your time and I’m here to help you write out your story.
With a client-centered approach, I offer a safe space for you to explore your fears, worries, and questions and celebrate your small daily victories. A daily victory is something small and achievable such as brushing your teeth or even showing up to therapy. When you’re not feeling your best, it can be hard to notice what you’ve been able to accomplish in a day. I will be your personal hype-person!
Through Narrative Therapy we will sit down together to unravel your story to help you separate the problems you’re experiencing from your personal identity. Through this, you will learn that you are not your problem and your problem isn’t you. We will rewrite your story in a more positive direction and highlight who you are. I want you to become the hero of your story and not suffer as a victim through it or just merely exist.
When you’re feeling anxious or depressed, you might have intrusive or automatic thoughts come into your head that tell you that you’re not good enough or that everything will end up in a worst-case scenario. These types of thoughts are known as cognitive distortions. With Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), I will help you reframe some of the beliefs and negative self-talk you hold and help you work towards healthier thoughts and developing healthy coping habits.
When needed, I take a solution-focused approach to help you map out goals you want to achieve and help you discover your own barriers. As a former school therapist and credentialed school counselor, I know that managing all the different parts of your life can be difficult and there often isn’t just one responsibility in your life. We’ll work together to build small, manageable, and achievable goals to help get your life back on track.
Lastly, from an existential lens, I utilize Logotherapy to help you face some of your biggest challenges, examine the meaning of your life, and find ways to live a life that is authentically yours.
I hope that you’re ready to rewrite your story with me. I can’t wait to get started. There’s so much we need to talk about!
Registered California Board of Behavioral Sciences Associate Professional Clinical Counselor 9964
Registered California Commission on Teacher Credentialing, School Counseling: Tawny Burke, PPS 210104779
Supervised by Yasuno Yoshizawa, LMFT 112040