Jack Lam, MSW
Adult & Teen Therapist
As a genderqueer, non-binary Chinese Malaysian immigrant, my ultimate goal in therapy is to provide a safe space for you to know yourself on a deeper level. It is my passion to be able to walk with you as you find out how to live a life more authentic to your values and beliefs.
Language: English & Conversational Mandarin & Malay
Sliding Scale: Available
Insurance: Cigna in-network & can provide superbill for PPO plans
Accepting New Clients: Yes
- Anxiety & Stress Management
- Burnout & Perfectionism
- Grief & Loss
- Teen & Adult ADHD
- Trauma & PTSD
Hey there, I’m Jack. Welcome to a safe place.
This is a space where you can explore and learn. It is a place where you can open up your feelings, struggles, trauma, past, and more.
I help people. People who struggle with isolation, loneliness, or suicidal thoughts. People who are questioning themselves, their identity, and more. People who struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, or grief. People who feel misunderstood or lost.
I can provide a safe space for you to voice yourself and your history. You will not be met with judgment, but with a friendly ear, and a hand to provide tools that help you move in the direction that you desire.
I will meet you with an open heart and no expectations. Together we will co-create a space of growth that will help you understand yourself better and explore your values without attachment, history, or judgment. We will work towards a vision of the better place in which you want to be, and develop tools to help you reach your goals. You will leave feeling more equipped to handle life’s unpredictability and challenges, and have a clearer idea of who you want to be in the world.
Therapy for Anxiety, Depression, and Trauma
You feel overwhelmed. Unsafe. Not enough. Anxious. Helpless. Depressed. Disconnected from yourself.
You feel pressured to live up to certain expectations from family. Or friends. Or society in general. You feel as though you are drowning in the demands.
In the throes of anxiety and/or depression, it is difficult to feel connected to yourself. It is challenging to see your value and understand what makes you who you are. Self-confidence is low or nonexistent, and it is hard to identify your purpose in life.
I am here to offer a helping hand and a safe space. I can provide tools to help manage depression and anxiety. I want to help you understand that these feelings are valid and make sense. We will create a space where we can uncover why you are feeling this way, and learn how to help make life feel more manageable.
Past trauma in childhood or adulthood can impact our daily thoughts and behaviors. It influences our programmed responses and reactions and creates dialogues in our heads. While originally formulated to protect us, some of them are no longer serving us and can cause deep-rooted anxieties and depression. I can support you in identifying the ways your past trauma is negatively affecting your current life, and how to overcome them.
Identifying and revisiting past trauma can be painful, and is not an overnight process. However, working through them can be incredibly gratifying and healing. I can help you understand the impact of your historical traumas, and work towards an empowered, grounded place. We will define new goals and I will help by providing you with the tools that you need to get there.
Therapy for Grief and Loss
Grief is a universal human experience. Loss is a part of each person’s life and can show up differently in our lives. Although everyone experiences grief, it can be a very isolating process.
You are not alone. While every loss is unique, it is important to know that many others are going through similar experiences, and even more, have gone through it and recovered.
Therapy can be a healthy place to process grief. I will provide a safe space for you to share your story, and untangle the complex emotions that often follow a loss. Together, we can process your feelings and begin to identify a pathway to building a new life.
Therapy for Gender Identity and Sexuality & the LGBTQIA+ Community
You struggle to make sense of your identity. Maybe you have been shamed for who you are, or who you love. Maybe you feel incredibly isolated. Maybe you feel like you don’t
belong in your traditional family or your cis-heteronormative world. Maybe it’s hard to imagine a future where you can live as your authentic self.
Societal and familial pressures can run deeply for people who feel as though they don’t fit into the world around them. It can be hard to create space to explore your identity, and it can often feel as if you are warring with different sides of yourself. It is incredibly painful to live a life that is expected of you, rather than a life that is true to your identity or values. You might be doing everything in your power to avoid disappointing those in your life, at the expense of your own well-being.
I see you. I grew up in a society without seeing the representation of the intersection of my identities – both queer and Asian. I often think back to how different life would have been if I had support in helping me make sense of my experiences.
I want to provide a safe listening space for you. There is great strength in reaching out for help. Seemingly insurmountable challenges are more easily tackled with the help of a trained therapist, especially one who understands the unique struggles that can come with being LGBTQ+. I can help provide you with effective coping tools, and process and identify your values, identity, and experience.
I want to help empower you to live the life you want. You deserve to love the person you are. You deserve to live a life that you can be proud of and grateful for.
Therapy with Me
Therapy with me is an experience focused on creating an understanding, non-judgmental environment where you can come to process, heal, grow, and be empowered. I have a genuinely warm and caring style as I try to find out more about your life across many different aspects. I want to understand as much as possible about you, to provide the most effective support possible.
I practice with the understanding that context matters. I believe there are a wide variety of aspects that impact who we are, our thoughts, and our behaviors. As a trauma-informed therapist, I understand that our thoughts and behaviors make sense based on past traumas and experiences, even if we have yet to understand them. I also believe that our sociopolitical environment heavily impacts the way we think and behave. Additionally, there are many varying aspects of identity such as race, gender, sexuality, birth order/family role, immigration status, or other social identities that may shape you into who you are today. I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), as well as Trauma-Informed Therapy, to help you understand the connection of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
As we create a safe space together, therapy with me will push you to grow – to be willing and open to changing the way you think and act. In this space, I will encourage and help you to block out the noise of others – familial, societal, and other normative expectations. We will work unlearning what you have been taught you should be, and discovering who you are, and what is important to you.
My ideal clients come into therapy with a willing heart, good intentions, and open expectations. I want you to not only give me a chance, but also understand that you are giving yourself a chance as well – a chance to learn, grow, and develop. I often describe myself as a tour guide: I can show you where to go and how to get there, but ultimately you are in the driver’s seat. You decide where you want to go and most importantly, you have to do the work to get there.
I’m glad you’re reaching out for help today, and that you’re taking a step towards trying something different. It would be my honor to be on your journey with you.
Registered California Board of Behavioral Sciences Number: ACSW 103660
Supervised by Jessie Li, LMFT 102623