Emotionally immature parents have become somewhat of a hot topic in the mental health space as Lindsay Gibson published her book. As we are discussing the impact of their upbringing with emotionally immature parents, at some point many clients pause…
We often talk about heartbreak after a breakup, but what about the heartbreak of never having had that kind of relationship at all? More and more, people are taking to social media to talk about the pain of being “chronically…
There’s a certain kind of person who carries the world quietly on her shoulders.She learned early that love was earned through usefulness.That her worth was measured by how much she could hold without breaking.And that to need less was to…
Understanding Why You Were Given (or Took On) So Much For so many eldest daughters of immigrant families, responsibility didn’t arrive with a ceremony. It wasn’t given like a gift; it crept in quietly, folded into the corners of everyday…
Defining the Eldest Daughter Experience When we talk about the eldest daughter, we usually mean the first-born girl. But often, the realities are more complex. The mantle of “eldest-ness” may shift (or be placed on someone) not always by birth,…
Let’s talk about something uncomfortable: the fetishization of Asian women. On the surface, it can look like a compliment – being called “exotic,” being told we’re “more attractive” than other women, being the “preference.” But if you scratch beneath that…
When someone dies by suicide, it leaves behind deep pain and heavy questions. For those who were close to the person whether family, friends, classmates, or coworkers, the grief can feel overwhelming, confusing, and sometimes isolating. The way we respond…
From the outside, everything looks fine. You’re showing up to work, you’re keeping your relationships intact, and checking off milestones. Maybe you’re even excelling! But inside? There’s a quiet, heavy ache. A numbness. A thought that creeps in when you’re…
Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents often leaves adult children with lingering confusion, frustration, and self-doubt. EI parents may have been reactive, dismissive, self-centered, or simply emotionally unavailable. They often lacked the capacity to attune to your feelings or…
If you’re navigating recovery from disordered eating, you might find yourself stuck in a confusing in-between space—wanting to change, but also not wanting to let go. This is ambivalence, and it’s a completely normal (and often frustrating) part of the…
